Some Bumps in the Road for Ruth and John, 1927

This is Ruth Meredith's engagement picture, published in the local paper, "The Austinite"  in October, 1927.   They had been dating since right after her graduation from Austin High in June, 1926.  Her tiny diary gives us a peek at her life and John Kellogg's in December of 1927.

Sunday, Dec. 2, 1927 - "Wonderful weather.  Had an embarrassing moment - my bloomer legs came down while walking to church.  Won and lost at bridge tonight.  Late to bed."

Monday, Dec. 3, 1927 - "Had a pretty good time at the club meeting - won a prize for a game - also a wall vase in a grab bag.  John came for me without the car.  He had a smash-up!!!

Tuesday, Dec. 4, 1927 - "John is pretty dejected over last night's accident.  It was between him and a street car, which did all the damage.  Don't know how it will turn out."

Wednesday, Dec. 5, 1927 - "Tired. Washed my hair.  It's very cold weather.  Stayed home tonight.  John dropped in for a while.  He wrote letter to the street car co. while I read.  I rec'd my 2nd book, which is 'Claire Ambler'."

Thursday, Dec. 6, 1927 - "Am retiring early after my ablutions.  Will read 'Claire Ambler', my new book,  until am tired.  Mama got a stomach ache, so Papa and I had to do dishes."

These quotes were not in Pieces of a Life, nor was the newspaper clipping.  After meeting John, Ruth's vocabulary broadened.  He had had 4 years of Latin in high school and was well read.  Fifty years later he could still come up with Latin roots to words.  "Ablutions", which means washing up, was not something she would have said before John.  

Life is Bubbling Along for the Kelloggs in Clearwater, 1975

There was an article about John Kellogg in the Clearwater, FL newspaper in 1975, along with this picture.  He had turned 76 in August.

After reading through a few months of Ruth's 1975 diary, I was struck by how busy and cheerful she was after she and John had been in Florida for about 10 years.  They had a lot of friends, many of them from their church in Oak Park.  Living nearby were son Ken (44) and his second wife, Nellie, (39) along with sons Phil (15) and Roger (12).

Ruth's mother, Lottie Meredith, and her brother, Jimmie, lived close by in Largo FL.  They had moved to Florida a few years the Kelloggs migrated south.   Ruth had a lot of responsibility for Lottie (89) and Jim (64), but she seemed to take it in stride at 69.  In the diary entry, we start out at Ruth's beauty shop, where she had her hair done weekly.

Dec. 3, 1975 - Wednesday - "Mary cut my hair - her own idea - no charge!  Feels better.  I shopped for Diane's Xmas gift.  Got her a blue cardigan and blue T-shirt.  This made me 45 min. late to Mom's.

Jim & I went shopping & put lunch in oven on return.  So we ate about 40 mins. after noon.  I then cut Jim's hair & Mom did dishes.  Then I rolled up the front of her hair (she washed it on Tues.). Then I washed out 4 of her things.  I sat on edge of her ottoman & it tipped me onto the floor.  Hurt my seat!  Not a far fall, but unexpected!  

John baked beans for supper - in wrong dish - so lost a lot of the liquid on oven floor.  Ended up too dry.  I did put water on & warm it covered, a little."

This tells you what some days were like at that point in Ruth's life.  She and John also played doubles in tennis once or twice a week, took dancing lessons, played bridge frequently, shopped, read books and magazines. She wrote a lot of letters to friends and also to me up in Palatine IL.  Ruth played bridge with her women friends as well as John.  She was in a couple of women's groups, which she seemed to look forward to. 

Three Thanksgivings in the 1930s

The picture shows Ruth wearing the black fox stole John gave her for their 1st wedding anniversary in June, 1930 and her July 5th birthday.  She was 24.  Maybe this was taken in the yard at 4705 Byron St., Chicago where they owned and lived in a 3-flat.

Nov., 27, 1930 - Thanksgiving - "Thanksgiving Day.  Cold! Folks came for dinner.  Chicken good - pie no good.  Played cards, had cold chicken in evening & cookies.  John peevish again.  Read in bed until 9:30."

Nov. 26, 1931 - Thanksgiving - "Smitty saw Baby first time.  John did part of my ironing while I washed Baby clothes.  We walked over to folks for dinner at 12:30.  We had leg-o-lamb & everything to go with Thanksgiving dinner.  Played Bridge & Hearts.  Home 8:15."

Nov. 24, 1932 - Thanksgiving  - "THaNksgiviNg.  After work was done here, we went to folks'.  Kennie slept on porch while we enjoyed Thanksgiving chicken (I paid for).  John's brief case stolen last nite.  Played cards.  (John out from 2:30-7:00.)"

Interesting to see that they had chicken twice and lamb once in those years.  The Depression had started in October, 1929, so money was tighter and tighter with so many losing jobs or getting large cuts in pay.  That explains the lack of turkey, duck, goose on the table.  I remember having turkey and duck for Thanksgiving at Grandma & Grandpa Meredith's at age 5 or 6.

Smitty was best friend to Jimmie, Ruth's younger brother, in grade school and high school.  It seemed that the relationship began to fray when they were in their late 20s.  I think that Smitty married where Jimmie did not.  Jimmie isn't mentioned, but he would have been at the 3 Thanksgivings at 19, 20 and 21 years old.

Kennie (later called "Kenny") was born on Sept. 6, 1931, so only 2 1/2 months old in Nov., 1931. Ruth and John were still coping with being parents as well as having little money.   They walked to the Meredith's on Iowa St. that year.  By then they had sold the 3-flat and had moved to a flat at 5841 W. Superior St.  It was only a few blocks from the Merediths.

Maybe Ruth was feeling festive when she wrote the unusual lettering on "Thanksgiving" in the 1932 quote from her diary.  By then they were probably feeling more at ease with 1-year-old Kennie.  Ruth doesn't say anything else about the brief case.  Perhaps that's where John went when he was "out" - looking for the brief case.

The day after Thanksgiving in 1932 Ruth and her mother,  Lottie Meredith, cut each other's hair and Lottie washed Ruth's hair.  Before the Depression when Ruth was working for Montgomery Ward, she and her mother both had their short hair cut by a barber.

Ruth's Move to a New World, Oak Park, with "Emotion"

This photo of Ruth Kellogg at age 35 in Oct., 1941 was taken before she moved to Oak Park.  It doesn't appear in Pieces of a Life.  Some of the diary entries that follow were used in the book, however.  They are among the most heartfelt, revealing ones Ruth wrote.

Most of Ruth's adult teen and adult years had been in the safe cocoon that the quiet, comfortable Austin neighborhood provided on the far west side of Chicago.  The house that Ruth and John bought in Nov., 1941 was only about two miles from the familiar two-flat on Iowa Street, owned by Ruth's parents, but may as well have been on the moon.  

Sunday, Nov. 16, 1941 - "Well, it's happened!  We've put a down payment on a 7-room house!  At 1210 N. Euclid Ave., Oak Park.  It's 11 years old.  Needs a little decorating in spots.  Has 2-car brick garage like house - orange-tan face brick all around.  Gas vapor heat.  

Then we went to Florence's for 4 o'clock dinner.  Of course the talk was then all about house - we took them by ours tonight.  Too dark to see much.  I feel sort of sad about moving in a month from here."

Monday, Nov. 17, 1941 -  "All day my emotions were at a high pitch and I couldn't accomplish much.  I did phone in 'To Rent' ad for flat and then make house presentable.  But it's taking me all day to get used to idea of moving into strange house away from familiar neighborhood.

Kenny wrote composition about "Happiest Moment of My Life" - and the facts of buying house yesterday.  So teacher knows it already.

P.S.  I cried myself to sleep."

Thursday, Nov. 20, 1941 - "Thanksgiving Day was spent down with folks, as usual.  Had big turkey, etc.  Talked over different problems of house and furnishings.  Mama and I played Old Maid and then Bridge with Diane and Kenny.  

Golly, I'm in a muddle as to what to do first about Xmas and moving!"

Ruth and John went to dinner at Florence & Clyde Ballentine's in Elmwood Park.  Ken and I would have been invited because the Ballentines had a girl named Bonnie, who was 4 years old.

Ruth and John enjoyed playing cards, which is why Ken and I learned to play Auction Bridge and other games at 5 years old.  John was very competitive, which may have been why he wanted to live in upscale Oak Park.  Luckily for Ken and me, the school system was outstanding.  I remember feeling very out of place on my first day there in November, feeling that the other kindergartners already had become friends.  So I was echoing the feeling that my mother had.  I adjusted, thanks to some very thoughtful teachers and nice children.

Ruth Kellogg's Last Diary, 1990

It's hard to find pictures of Ruth late in her life.  This one was in 1979 when she was only 73.  She is surrounded by husband John (80), Lynn, Cindy, Kate and, behind the girls, their father, Dan Pellettiere.

I found a diary covered in a pattern of blue, peach and white.  This was Ruth's final journal and in it was a card that said, "Dear Ruth - Happy Birthday - Love, Amparo."

Ruth had  turned 84 on her birthday, July 5.  However, her slow-moving Alzheimer's had reached a point where she wouldn't have known the date or the year, so maybe Amparo had given it to her later...Ruth's first entry was on Sept. 8.  She said that was "the date of receiving."  There were only
perhaps a dozen entries scattered through the next 2 or 3 months.

Ruth also mentions that Amparo Lancaster, daughter-in-law Nellie's mother, "here to keep me company from time to time."  She didn't realize that Amparo was functioning as her caregiver and was with her about half of every week.  Amparo drove Ruth to the store, hairdresser, restaurants, and on any other appointments or errands.  Amparo was 7 years younger and doing well for her age.  In fact, she is still alive at 103.

November 4, 1990  -  "Early A.M. Diane phoned & we had about 10 or 12 minutes.  She's a busy gal!  I was glad to hear from her & she is a busy girl!  It's a shame we are so far from each other, but they are a busy family so I was surprised to hear her voice on phone & glad!

Outside there are 2 ends of a rainbow.  The rain must be far out - no see at all!  It is 6:30.  

A big crowd watching golfers (on TV).  It is raining here!  6:40 PM"

Ruth had never played golf, but enjoyed watching it because of the pretty scenery and activity.  At that point Ruth was still at Horizon House in Clearwater, FL where she and John had bought a large condo over 20 years earlier.  She was soon to go to a retirement home and then on to a facility for dementia patients where she spent the last few years of her life.

The picture and diary entries were not in Pieces of a Life.

Ruth and Baby #2

The picture shows Ruth, Diane (7 weeks) and Kenny (4 1/2) in 1936 in the backyard at Iowa St. where the Kelloggs lived upstairs above Ruth's parents, the Merediths, for a few years.

Ruth's diary entries are months earlier when she had just begun to tell people about her pregnancy.

Friday, October 11, 1935  -  "This was club meeting night at Jeanette's.   Had to take Kenny as he was too wide awake.  John went to show and came for us afterward, in time for eats.  

I told my news during course of evening.  Surprised them."

Sunday, Oct. 13, 1935 - "Wonderful weather.  Went to S.S. & was asked to take charge of nursery as a pair of twins were there.  I asked Martha to help me.  After S.S., as Herb Allen had to work, John asked Martha to ride with us to Lake Geneva.  

Before dinner we drove down to Jefferson Park hospital to look around.  I didn't like it, but he did.  Had malted milk, etc. in Lake Geneva & back home at 8.  Some ride - 4 of us in front seat."

 I think that Ruth and John went to Jefferson Park Hospital right after church.  Then they ate dinner in the early afternoon and later drove up to Lake Geneva WI to take advantage of a beautiful autumn day.

Ruth and John Say Happy 92nd Birthday to Lottie Weekes Meredith!

Oct. 1, 1978 - Sunday
"Mom's birthday (Meredith) - 1886
Mom 92!  We got there about 1 P.M. & put candles & 'Happy Birthday' sign on the small Lemon Coconut loaf cake.  We 4 sang the song & I cut the cake & we had ice cream with it.  She rec'd 9 cards.  Ken & Nellie gave her (on Thurs) small chain & imitation diamond in silver setting.  We played some Silly Solitaire.  Left about 3:30."

By 1978 the Kelloggs were well into their retirement years in Clearwater FL.  Ruth's mother, Lottie, and her son, Jimmie, were living together in nearby Largo FL.  Jimmie, a schizophrenic since his teen years, was 67.   Ruth and John were 72 and 79, still fairly healthy, able to see friends, play cards, enjoy tennis, take vacations in the US and other countries.

John loved to take walks. One of his favorite walks was to the library once a week, taking a book bag.  He would return books and pick up another 6 or so.  At one point his goal was to read all of the books in the Clearwater

Library, in alphabetical order.  When he ran into the new-to-him "Avon Romances", he decided that he could skip any books that didn't appeal to him - like those.

In the picture are Ruth and John with Dan after playing tennis. (I was the photographer,)  Ruth's diary entry and the picture aren't in Pieces of a Life, my book.

Two Diaries Speak on Aug. 9, 1965

I had had surgery in July, 1965 at Beth Israel Hospital in Manhattan, so was not yet back to work at U.S. Life on Maiden Lane in NYC when I wrote this diary entry. Our apartment was in Riverdale.  Calling long distance is still considered very pricey in 1965, as you can guess by my noting the time we talked.  The home office of the ad agency Dan worked for, N.W. Ayer, was in Philadelphia, though the office he went to most of the time was in the Time-Life Building at 50th and 6th.

Monday, August 9, 1965
"I got up at 9 and vacuumed the whole apartment. Then at 11 while I was writing to Dan's parents, the phone rang.  Surprise - my mother called to find out how I am.  We talked for 12 minutes....
The sky was overcast and it rained off and on, so I didn't go to the pool.   Wrote to my parents and continued reading an interesting book - The Heartland:  Ohio, Indiana, Illinois.  Dan called to say he would be in Philadelphia over night, then called from Philly at 7.  I read, baked cookies, watched TV.  Stayed up til 1:00."

 On the same day many miles west of us in Oak Park  IL, my mother, Ruth Kellogg, wrote in her diary.  

Monday, August 9, 1965
"Rain.  Phoned Beth & long-distanced to Diane.  As a result of talking to Diane (who is feeling fine), I started making a shift for Diane out of her former sorority curtains.  She is using shift a lot I made her."

The picture below is from July, 1936 when Diane was 2 months old.  Ruth Kellogg (30) had driven, Kenny (4), and grandmother Lottie (49) out to Elgin.  They were visiting Ruth's brother, Jimmie (25), in a mental institution.  He was diagnosed as a schizophrenic as a teenager.


Here are some short entries from Ruth's diary.  She was now the mother of 2 children - an infant and a 4-year-old, Kenny.  If you have ever leaped from 1 to 2 children, then you know what a big jump that is.  Ruth and John lived in a flat above her parents at 5458 W. Iowa St. in the Austin section of Chicago.  Lottie did help with some babysitting from time to time.  Her father, "Papa", was always a calming, steady influence.

Sunday, June 1, 1936 - "CHILDREN'S DAY.  I sent Kenny to Sunday School with the Allens.  At 4:45 we went for Children's Day exercises.  Had baby Diane dedicated with Cradle Roll members.  Had Allens to dinner."
Baptists are "dedicated" when they are named.  Later they are baptized, immersed in water, at around 12 years old when they are aware of the decision they're making.   The Allens were neighbors and close friends of Ruth and John, but soon moved to Reading PA and then on to Texas a few years later.

Monday, August 10, 1936 - "After we were in bed last nite it poured & blew terribly & a tipsy doctor skidded into our car at curb.  Funny.  I awoke John & he had to call garage to get bumpers unlocked."
Interesting that Ruth thought the "tipsy doctor" was funny - maybe because of the locked bumpers.  She was brought up in a non-alcoholic family as was John.  

Saturday, August 22, 1936 - "Went to show & left baby with John.  Kenny with me.  When we got home, she was crying in the dark while John slept on the back porch."
This was probably John's way of showing me who was boss.  He was reared in a more harsh time for children, having been born in 1899.

Friday, August 28, 1936 - "John had bad smash up with car on way to work.  Says a milkman was in way & he didn't see the other car soon enough.  Both at fault."

Friday, September 4, 1936 - "Had to bail John out of jail at 9:45 tonight.  Lucky for him I had saved $70.00.  The other fellow in accident served warrant & John has to go to court."
On the following day when they were leaving for Ann Arbor MI to see John's mother and stepfather,
Ruth mentions that John returned the money, so apparently the court felt it was not his fault.

Sunday, September 13, 1936 - "Rained hard & long today, but we started for Elgin to see Jim at 2:15.  He was fine & we all ate downtown & drove around.  Home at 8:15."
Jimmie did have shock treatments at Elgin, but I am not sure just when.  His first flare-up was at church as a teenager, so 9 or 10 years earlier.  Mental illness was not understood at all at this point or even 40 or 45 years later when he was placed in a mental hospital in Florida.

The Merediths at Baron Lake MI in 1916

"Summer 1916, Rutlage's Resort, Baron Lake, Mich" is on the back of the picture in my grandfather's writing.  Brought up in Berrien County on the southwest corner of Michigan, James R. Meredith loved the green forests and the lakes, including the big one, Lake Michigan, that formed the western edge of Michigan. 

Jim didn't have a middle name, so used "R." as his middle initial.  I've always thought it was because of his grandfather's name.   
Benjamin R. Meredith from Kent Co., Maryland had that initial.  Did it stand for a name?  Maybe.  Born in 1801, he was a soldier in the Florida War and the Black Hawk War.

Jim and his wife, Lottie Weekes Meredith, did travel from Chicago back to Michigan often to see his family at this stage, only married 11 years (Nov. 23, 1904).  Jim was doing well,
after moving to the big city, Chicago, for a job and a better life.  In 1916 he was working for a major company, Western Electric, where he would be employed for the rest of his life.

The small woman seated between the two children must be Jim's mother, Ruth Parks Olmstead Meredith, age 68.  She appears in another picture a few years later.  The girl is Ruth Viola Meredith, named for both grandmothers, at age 10.  The boy is James William Meredith (5), who is named for his father and his mother's father, William Walter Wilson Weekes, from Wilkes-Barre PA.  They called him "Jimmie."

Standing behind them are two women I'm guessing are a cousin and an aunt of the man in the middle, Jim Meredith.  Lottie, Jim's wife, wasn't in the picture.  Maybe she was behind the camera.

This is a casually posed picture with three of the subjects looking off to the right side, drawn to something - a dog barking, laughter, someone heading their way.  Young Ruth, my mother, looks strikingly like I did at about that age, right down to the somewhat bored vibes.  It looks like there's a house or a cabin behind those pictured.

Pictures from the past give you a feel for what life was like, but dredge up more questions than answers.  They make me want to study further what life was like at that time and especially for my ancestors.

Ruth's Life Changes Again in Florida, 1983 Diary

The Pellettieres seen in 1981 in the family room in front of the fireplace in Palatine.  In 1981 Cindy was 14, Diane and Dan 45, Lynn 15 and Kate 11.

I've just gone through many of Ruth's diaries in her late 60s/70s and found that as her life in Clearwater became secure, there were few mentions of the family back in Illinois.  I think she was still sending a gift and card for birthdays, but there is no mention of that either or of the birthday itself.

However, to be fair to Ruth, she had had some major developments in her 70s.  She was very slowly moving into dementia, though the early signs of it were easy to mistake for just aging.  Her brother Jimmie, a schizophrenic, was placed in a mental hospital far from Clearwater after having a breakdown.  He had been living in a small house in nearby Largo with his mother, Lottie Meredith.  Lottie was 96 when the following diary entry was written and was living in a nursing home close to Ruth and John.  It happens that July 13 was granddaughter Cindy's 16th birthday.

Wednesday, July 13, 1983 -  "I spent 2 1/2 hours with Mom.  Pushed her down halls and into Rec. Room briefly.  Watched her eat sparingly of her lunch, which has at least 5 items plus coffee.  I got back here by 3:45 & J. took off in car."  It sure gets a work-out between us."

Thursday, July 14, 1983 -  "Had my hair done - first since Perm last week.  Looks good - Mary is perfect after all these years doing it for me.  I give her a good tip too.  I no sooner got home than J. took off with car on errands.  In afternoon he walked  to and from town for exercise!"

The Kelloggs each had a car from 1942 to around 1980 when John decided they should sell one of the cars.  John was a month from his 84th birthday when he walked to town.  I recall his walking to the library from the Horizon House on the causeway all the way into Clearwater, both for exercise and because he loved to read.  John was not easy to get along with and very strong in his opinions!

Ruth and John Fly to Palatine to Visit the Pellettieres

Ruth and John Kellogg, Diane's parents, pictured in front of their car in Fl in 1977.  They were 71 and 78.  The diary entries are from 1980.

Sunday, June 22, 1980 - "Early 7 A.M. pick-up by Limo to Tampa Airport where we waited over an hour for 9:15 flight (breakfast) to O'Hare. There 4 of the 5 Pellettieres met us in their yellow Cadillac!  Cindy stayed home.  Later - John found odd things in a pocket of luggage! He had wrong one!  His still at airport.  We're minus shaver and other essentials until tomorrow!"

Monday, June 23, 1980 - "Diane drove to airport first & John EXCHANGED luggage at the lower level while we slowly circled and returned for him.  Then on downtown to D&D's McDonald's which is quite remarkable.  Very attractive.  Diane & Dan told us all about how it runs & J. took some pictures.  Vi in office.  

We had steak sandwiches & later ice cream - after J. & I walked over to State St. and had Sara Jane's Genealogy pages copied for Diane.  We waited an hour or more for D&D to finish at McD & drive home by 5 P.M. - tired!  My feet! - to bed 9 P.M."

Tuesday, June 24, 1980 - "J. & I played little tennis with Cindy (not interested) and Katie, who takes lessons and is good for her age.  Then we saw Dan & team play exciting softball game - 14-6, after salmon cake dinner."

Dan and myself had become McDonald's owners in Sept., 1979, so it was still new and exciting to us and to our friends, relatives.   I'm not sure just what was copied of Sara Jane Wood Tobey's.  "Sally", as my father called her, was a much younger half-sister.  She and John had the same mother, Esther Clara Webb.

Vi Saletta was Veronica, Dan's sister, who was 16 years older and worked in our McDonald's office for 10 years...Cindy was never interested in tennis, probably just doing a good deed, while Katie really did like it. I don't know where Lynn was...Dan has played softball for most of his life, including 2016.  The diary entries and picture are not in Pieces of a Life.

Ruth on Iowa Street in 1938 with Young Ken (7) and Diane (2)

This 1940 photo of Ken (9) and Diane (4) was taken on the front steps of 5458 W. Iowa St., Chicago where grand-parents Lottie and Jim Meredith lived.  At that time Ruth and John Kellogg rented the small upstairs apartment.

Wednesday, Aug. 17, 1938 - "Kenny had tonsils and adenoids out at Douglass Park Hospital, 11 A.M.  He was an A No. 1 patient - cost $12.50, total clinic fee.  Home at 6:15 and to bed."

Thursday, Aug. 18, 1938 - "Kenny won't eat. Whimpers about throat hurting.  Nothing but water, not even ice cream will he take.  Hope he's better tomorrow."

Tuesday, Aug. 23, 1938 - "Card from Martha.  First since they left.  Doesn't like Reading much.  Took Kenny back to the hospital tonite.  They said throat is 'beautiful'.  Now feels better."

  In 1938, they didn't have the surgery cut-off in early Aug. that existed in 1945 when I had my tonsils out at age 9.  The cut-off was due to the polio scare that went on for several years.  One child on our block (1200 N. Euclid) in Oak Park was infected with polio.

The card Ruth mentions was from Martha Allen, a former neighbor.  We did visit the Allens in Reading PA and then later in Dallas in the late 1940s when they moved again.  I have a scar on
my forehead that came from running after the bigger kids in Reading and having a throw rug throw me into the corner of a door!

John's Blissful Summers on Grand Island As A Boy

In his short autobiography, John Webb Kellogg spoke of idyllic summers as a little boy on Grand Island, NY, which was near Buffalo.  His mother, Esther Clara Webb Kellogg, was the granddaughter of Irish immigrants who journeyed to Canada and then upstate New York in the late 1840's.

Many Webbs farmed on Grand Island, as did Esther's family.  Born in 1899, John probably was an infant when his mother, Esther, began to take him to Grand Island to visit her parents and other Webb relatives in the summer.   The following quote is from
Pieces of a Life.  John's younger sister, Dorothy Helen Kellogg, was born in 1903
  
  "As John reminisces about Grand Island, he makes it sound as though that was where he grew up.  He was there only a few weeks in the summer, with his mother and sister and perhaps an occasional visit from his father.  Summer would have been the best season for the bridge-building
Kelloggs and their crews to be out of town."  

     "John probably enjoyed Grand Island where he could play with other children, see his grandparents, aunts, uncles as well as do chores.  It must have been much more relaxed than his time with his father and step-brother.  I wonder when he realized that the Irish -- his mother's many relatives on Grand Island -- were lower in social status than the English and Scottish in his father's line?"

   Here's a little of John's writing from "75 Years - Where Did They Go?.  "Where did one buy things?  Virtually everything we ate came from stuff raised on the farm or from basic raw materials they bought.  Flour came in barrel lots and each day or two one of the girls or Grandmother would bake bread.  That did not last long with a lot of hungry men to feed.  Farm machinery was scarce.  Most jobs were done by hand.  All were up and had finished breakfast before 6.  When the crops were ripe. they often worked until dark, which might mean 8 or 9 at night.  Suppose that the grain were ripe;  if not promptly harvested, rain would beat it to the ground where it was without 
worth."
  

Ruth's Grandbaby, Lynn Meredith, in Dec., 1966

Lynn Meredith Pellettiere enjoying the little yellow tub, sitting on a counter in the upper level bath of our first house in Mt. Prospect.  She's 7 months old and smiling at Daddy, the camera man, while Mom gives her a bath.  Ruth's diary entries follow, starting with the 3rd day of their drive from FL to IL.  She is 60 and John 67.

December 13, 1966 - "Up and out by 6:45 A.M.  Good day again.  Best yet when we hit Chicago we got sun - only traces of snow in parts of Indiana & Illinois on ground.  Arrived at Diane's at 2:30 & surprised her at early hour.  Roger also here.  Beth & Philip came later & talked to Ken after supper.  Phoned Mom & got Jim so told him we'd see them Thurs.  Lynn is studying us!"

December 14, 1966 - "We took Diane grocery shopping & J. paid bill.  Lynn peevish - lack of sleep I guess.  We went out a 2nd time to the big Niles shopping area & Diane bought herself dress material & pattern for shift.  Tired tonite.  Baby missed good naps so had to go to bed early as she was unhappy.  Diane made Sukiyaki for the 3 of us as Dan flew to Memphis today."

December 15, 1966 - "Diane had a bad night and got up this A.M. to vomit so I took care baby and food.  Called Mom to say we'd not be there today, of course.  Tonite I gave Diane tea and toast, but she lost it.  She must have intestinal flu, but has no doctor yet, except new gynecologist she has first date with on Sat."

Roger and Philip Kellogg are our 3- and 6 -year old nephews.  They are the children of Diane's brother, Ken, and his wife, Beth.  Grandpa John Kellogg had the flu in Florida, starting on Dec. 7, which may be
where Diane got it.  She was going to the OB-Gyne because she was expecting another child in July.  Ruth's mother and brother, Lottie (80) and Jimmie (55) Meredith, lived about a mile away from the Pellettieres, also in Mt. Prospect.  They had moved out of the west side Austin area of Chicago where they had had a 2-flat on Iowa St. since 1922.

Kate and Daddy Dan in 1972

Kate and Daddy Dan Pellettiere enjoy a moment together in one of the new chairs in the living room in Palatine.

Grandparents Ruth and John Kellogg flew in from their new home in Florida the night before Kate's 2nd birthday.  They came in for birthday parties for Kate and also Lynn in May - and to babysit while Diane was at with several AOII functions as brand-new alum chapter president.  They stayed long enough to babysit for a week while Diane and Dan were in Las Vegas at an ad agency business golf function.  Ruth's diary entry is below.

Saturday, April 22, 1972 - "Seemed like Sunday today.  Girls came in to watch me unpack.  Didn't sleep very well.  Lot of preparation went into birthday dinner for Katie and other grandparents and Vi.  D&D spent morning furniture shopping alone.  Girls (not Katie) went to a party in afternoon.  Olive Kenney phoned.

I went with Diane on a ride to take folks home at 7 - all the way to Austin.  Katie liked birthday presents."

The "other grandparents" were Dan and Josephine Pellettiere, who lived in Austin where Ruth lived from 1922 to 1929.  Dan's older sister, Vi, helped her parents a great deal.  By then they were 80 and 82.  The woman who called Ruth was one of her church friends who was still living in Oak Park.  When Ruth and John visited our family, they also saw some of their old friends from First Baptist.

3 of Ruth's Diary Entries in October, 1965

The picture is of me, Diane, in 1964 after Dan Pellettiere and I had been married.  I was sitting on the bed in our apartment in Riverdale, which is part of NYC.  Dan worked for N.W. Ayer, a famous old advertising agency, and I worked for an insurance co. as a technical writer in the EDP department.

Ruth and John Kellogg. my parents, had sold their house in Oak Park.They were living in an apartment, so still involved with local friends, especially from their church, First Baptist.  That would all change when they
moved into the condo they had bought in Clearwater FL, but were renting to a tenant for a year.  Their house had sold faster than they had thought it would.

October 12. 1965 -  John got the CHECKER CAR today.  It looks like a station wagon!  Bulky!"  The huge Checker car (also used for taxicabs) was big enough for guests like my brother and his wife,  who had 2 little boys, plus Ruth and John.  Eventually it also served our family of 5 by 1970.

October 17, 1965  - "Diane phoned with big news (while she had Beth on the phone) that she's expecting first baby about June 1.  
   Beth was expecting luggage we gave her."  The luggage must have been Beth's birthday gift.  She was
Ken's wife at that time.   In a later diary entry I said I thought the doctor's due date was wrong - and he did change it to mid-May - a week after the baby actually arrived.

October 18, 1965 - "Dropped note of congratulations to Diane & Dan.  Went to bank for my household money.  My sewing machine returned at cost of $30.  I used it on towels - seems okay.  Phoned Kay and Roberta."   It was so typical of the times to send a note rather than picking up the phone to make a call, especially a long distance one.  I used to love to write notes and letters and enjoyed getting them from others.  At one time I kept a schedule of who I had written to, trying not to leave any one out inadvertently.  Between friends and relatiives, there were probably 30 people on it.
"Kay and Roberta" were two of Ruth's friends from church.  The Kelloggs joined First Baptist in Nov., 1941 when they moved to Oak Park.  Ruth was 35 and John 42 at that time.

Neither the diary entries nor the picture are in Pieces of a Life.

Ruth & John Celebrate Their 25th in 1954

In the photo Ruth and daughter Diane are about to enter the new 1953 Packard in front of the house,  Nov., 1953.

At age 18, I wrote the following article for the Oak Leaves, published early in June, 1954.  Sounds a bit stilted, but that was the way social items appeared.

Fete John W. Kelloggs' 25th Anniversary
   "The 25th anniversary of Mr. & Mrs. John W. Kellogg was recently celebrated with an open house at their 1210 North Euclid home.  More than 70 villagers and friends from neighboring suburbs conspired to make the occasion a memorable one.

    Of the Kelloggs' two children, their daughter Diane, a senior at high school, was present to take part in the celebration.  Kenneth, their son, a graduate of Northwestern University, is serving in the army, and is presently at Ft. Hood, Texas."

Earlier that day, May 31, I came back from a 3-day First Baptist Church teen outing at a cottage near Sheboygan WI.  Here's a little of the page in my diary from that day.  "Picked up hors d'oeuvres.  Di really beat.  There were about 70 at the Open-House for parents 25th wedding anniversary.  Was a mad house.  Received belle cadeaux.  Bonnie and Di helped me engineer food.  Morey too.  He came home at 7.  Big surprise!"

"Di" was Diane Karis, my best friend.  We met in our alphabetically-arranged home room as freshmen (Kellogg and Karis). "Belle cadeaux" means beautiful gifts for my parents.  "Bonnie" is the daughter of long-time friends, the Ballentines, who were guests.  Morey McDavid was my boyfriend toward the end of high school & had been out of town.  Ken was fulfilling his two-year military obligation after college.  He later went to Univ. of Illinois at Champaign for an MBA.  That's where I went for my Journalism degree.

This was not in Pieces of a Life  nor was the picture.



  

Ruth & John Help Ken & Family Move to Florida - 1971

The picture shows Lynn, Kate and Cindy Pellettiere at Kate's 2nd birthday in April, 1972.  They're in the balloon-clad dining room of the Palatine house with beach pails and shovels on the table in front of them, favors for the kids about to come to the party. The painting is one of Dan's.

Ruth's diary talks about how she and John stayed at Ken's home for a few weeks.  They helped show the house, clean the house, make meals, take care of the boys, do laundry etc. while the Des Plaines house was on the market.  Ken's family would move to one in Clearwater FL that summer, joining Ruth and John as well as Ruth's mother and brother in Largo FL.

June 1, 1971 - 42nd Anniversary!
"I made 2 phone calls to pick up furniture & clothing, etc. before Diane phoned for help.  Out I went to Palatine to stay with ailing Cindy and the baby so she could go register  L & C for summer school.  She or they returned about 11:10 and I had to hurry right back here for boys' lunch, then took them to school and went to beauty shop (Tiffany's - Joann) where had hair done.  

Back here to put roast in oven, clean up lunch dishes  & make a few more beds before Philip got here to go to the store with me.  Roger went right to a birthday party from school.

Anniversary card in the mail from D & D.  She & girls phoned & sang over wire the 'Birthday' song - and substituting Anniversary.  Had good meal for 5 of us at 6:10 - only I and boys didn't like the taste of the sweet potatoes."

The "summer school" was an arts/crafts class at the Palatine Park District facility over on the east side of town.  It was one or two hours each time, met twice a week and ran several weeks.  Lynn & Cindy seemed
enjoy it.  Ken's first wife is mentioned periodically in Ruth's diary.  She must have been living separately, perhaps in a hospital.   Neither the diary quote nor the picture are in Pieces of a Life.  The 5 people who ate Ruth's dinner would have been all Kelloggs - Ruth, John, Ken (39), Philip (10) and Roger (7).

John's Exciting Encounter with the Police, Guns Drawn!

This is not from a diary, but sketches an incident that turned up among the papers left by my parents, Ruth and John Kellogg.  It's in John's handwriting, hastily written on the "scrap paper" with an ad for his bandage business on the other side.  I know he wrote it at 6:15 AM, but don't know the day or the year.  My guess is in the late 1950s or 1960s. The neighbor he mentions is not familiar to me, so I was not living at home at that point.

"I went to the garage and found door jammed.  Would not open.  I raised it a foot & crawled under & was looking at it when 2 men with guns rushed up & said to come out.  They said they had said they were police officers, but if so I did not hear them.

Citro girl & boyfriend were held up as they came home about 4 AM from a dance.  The Citro garage door makes noise so the girl, not yet asleep, heard door being opened.  Citro put on garage light & burglar rushed away.  Police said they saw me crawl under the door & figured I was the burglar.  

Good thing I got a good heart!  

Never had anything like this before."

I've never heard this story before, nor did I know the Citro family, who must have lived nearby, either on Linden or Euclid in Oak Park.  Both streets shared our alley.  Evidentally the attempted burglary was after the boyfriend dropped off the Citro girl at her house.  John usually left for work by 5 AM, so the fact that he wrote this note at 6:15 is telling.  He was upset enough to get off schedule - and doubtless was interviewed by the police as well, though his driver's license would have quickly proven who he was.  I wonder if the burglar first tried the Kellogg door, accidentally jamming it.

So far I haven't found out anything else, but perhaps a newspaper or The Oak Leaves might have covered the story.  This is not part of Pieces of a Life.

Ruth Meredith at Austin High, Chicago in 1925

I love my mother's graduation picture, taken in the Spring of 1926.  Ruth Viola Meredith's marcelled dark blonde hair was very stylish.  Too bad the photo isn't in color.  Her "cat's eyes", as she called them, were greenish hazel.  My guess is that the blouse was either dark green or navy blue with a red bow.  Ruth was very aware of fashion and made most of her clothes.

Tuesday, Jan. 13, 1925 - "Today we had dandy exercises in Gym.  In Typing I have started on the first exercise in the 13th lesson, which isn't so bad, because Wanda is only on the 11th exercise.  I hope she gets through though.

Mr. Nichols showed us a Wild Western of the life on a ranch in the History class today.  Of course, it was a moving picture, supposed to fit in with the lesson, but it didn't this time."

Wednesday, Jan. 14, 1925 - "Nothing special occurred today, sorry to say.  Oh, but when I think of the many, many things that have to be done, both in and out of school hours, I just have to gasp.  The end of the term is only a few weeks away.  I didn't get any farther in Typing today.  In Industrial History class we were shown a moving picture concerning Westward movement in the early days."

Friday, Jan. 23, 1925 - "Today was better than yesterday although I had to go through three finals.  They were Shorthand, English and Industrial History."

Ruth mentions Wanda Thiele, her best friend, on Jan. 13.  She and Wanda both had to work hard to get through high school.  In Ruth's case, I suspect that being a preemie in 1906 was involved.  She was placed in a coal oven with the door ajar as an incubator for a week or more.  Her mother, Lottie Weekes Meredith, probably got that idea from a midwife or another mother.  Lottie was 19. Her mother, Viola Hawley Weekes, had died when she was 9.  Lottie left school in 7th or 8th grade to keep house for her father and little Lewis.  Ruth's father graduated from high school through Western Electric where he worked for many years.

Moving pictures were new when Ruth was in high school.  "Talkies" were about to come out.  She loved going to the moving picture theatres of the 1920s.

Ruth was disappointed with some of her grades, but happy to get an E in Gym, an 88 and an E minus on two English tests.  Mr. Nichols gave her S on a map and E on another History test.  Those were all better than her grades in Shorthand and European History on the preceding Monday.  The diary entries are not in Pieces of a Life, but the graduation picture is.  Sadly, few pictures of Ruth as a teen and around 20 have survived.

1971 - New House & Girls in Palatine and Palm Sunday in Florida

The picture was taken in 1971 in front of our new house at 1132 Skylark Drive, Palatine.  Our 3 girls, (left) Cindy (age 4), Lynn (age 5) and Kate (17 months), were enjoying a breezy, warm day.  This photo has been on at least one Christmas card.

Meanwhile, in Clearwater, FL grandparents Ruth (65) and John (72) Kellogg were leading a busy life.

Sunday, April 4, 1971 -
"An on-the-go day - Palm Sunday.  First,  to 9:30 service - where Claire & Merle sat with us.  Second,  home for a few hours to read & eat a bite of lunch.  Third,  To Morton Plant hospital to see Ethel Betts (broken hip case) and took her candy.  We stayed about 1/2 hour.  Fourth,  home for 3 1/2 hours and - Fifth,  to Concert (free one) where we arrived same time as Claire!  Sixth  To Fritche's for 7 P.M. snacks - the 4 of us.  Seventh  - home by 8 to see FBI on TV!   Whew!

Took a look at M.P. hosp. gift shop - small too, but has large stock room."

Ruth and John were feeling at home in Florida by 1971.  The Jennings (Claire and Merle) had been friends of theirs at First Baptist Church in Oak Park.  Other old friends also appeared from time to time.  Some moved to FL and others just rented condos for a few months.

However, Ruth and John were going to Palatine in mid-April after Easter to stay with us in our much-bigger house - over twice the size of the split-level we had had in Mt. Prospect.  They helped us with the process of getting things put away after having moved in on April 9-10-11 with the help of friends.  Most of this  information and the picture are not in Pieces of a Life.

Diane Meredith Makes an Appearance

On the back porch of our 2nd floor flat, Diane (me) at age 1 is shown in a wheeled contraption, longingly looking at her birthday cake. The arms holding me in place belonged to Grandma Lottie Meredith, Ruth's mother.  Ruth took the picture in May, 1937.  Going back one year...

...Ruth Kellogg was 29 in May, 1936 when she and John were about to have their second child.  Back then, of course, they did not know the sex, but I've been told that they wanted a girl after having had a boy, Ken, in 1931.  Ruth and John were living in the flat above Ruth's parents and brother Jimmie on Iowa Street in Chicago.  The Great Depression was gradually receding, somewhat like the Ice Age.  Most of this post is not in Pieces of a Life.

Wed., May 6, 1936
"Stuck to ironing until finished.  Wrote letter to Ida Beal who, Charlie told John over the phone, is expecting second arrival in August.  Mama visited at Decker's.  Went to Doctor tonight.  Gave me pills for a trace of albumin."
Ida and Charlie Beal were close friends of John and Ruth.  The Deckers were good friends of Lottie Meredith.  I don't know anything about the pills for albumin that Dr. Tucker gave to Ruth.

Fri., May 15, 1936
"Went downtown to Doctor tonight.  He hinted there might not be another trip down there.  On way home got ice cream cones."
Ruth was due on May 24, so would have had another appointment around May 22 - though it turned out that it was not needed.

Sun., May 17, 1936
"At 4 A.M. we arrived at hospital.  At 6:12 A.M. baby girl was born -- 6# 5 oz.  Left Kenny home asleep.   It happened just one week early."
On this page of Ruth's diary I added a note in cursive writing and some decoration when I was 8 years old.  It said "Birthday of Diane now 8" across the top and there was a circle around the date.  That was done in 1944, during World War II.

Tues., May 19, 1936
"Baby is getting cuter every day.  Named her Diane Meredith.  Letter from Alice tonight.  Jim  & John came tonight.  John brought fresh roses."
Women were in the hospital a week or 10 days back then.  Kenny was 3 1/2 and would have been in the care of Lottie mostly with John in charge when he came home from work.  Lottie probably made dinner for
Kenny and John too.

A Boy in Lancaster NY

John Webb Kellogg was born in Buffalo, NY in 1899 and grew up in the nearby village of Lancaster.  His parents were 18-yr-old Esther Clara Webb and 44-yr-old Charles Henry Kellogg Jr.

 John had a lifelong interest in history, but sadly, not in genealogy.  John was a high-detail, focused person as you will soon see in excerpts of his story, "75 Years -- Where Did They Go?"  His entire story, written in 1974, is part of Pieces of a Life.

There are those who would say he wore blinders like a horse, so preoccupied with whatever drew him at the time.  He could then race straight ahead to his goal.  Like so many things, being very focused is both a plus and a minus, but a strong Kellogg trait.

John describes the house pictured in detail, but not colors or decor or even how the rooms were laid out.
(The picture is from 1940 when the house would have been 60 or more years old and was no longer on
3 1/2 acres.)  "Our house had been built many years before we bought and had about 20 rooms.  It had two floors, plus a cement floor, full basement.  In the basement there was a furnace in which we burned hard coal and which gave hot air through ducts to the two living rooms and dining room on the first floor, also to both second floor front bedrooms.  The first floor also had a large kitchen and pantry, which were heated by a large range primarily used for cooking or baking. Water came from the kitchen sink pump or a large pump outside, sheltered from rain or snow."

As you can see, I wasn't kidding about John's delight in detail!  "In the back of our land was a high hill that no one seemed to own.  Lancaster, being at the east end of Lake Erie, gets a lot of snow. After each snowfall dozens of small boys and girls would take their Flexible Flyers to the hill for a long coast down.  

Sometimes we would make tracks; simply do not steer or guide the path it took.  Thereafter, it would follow those tracks each time it went down.  At times in the day the sun would melt the top layers of snow and at night it would turn cold so the crust would get hard.  Lads would then take out their sled on a moonlit night and push it along the top of the crusty snow with a stick that had a spike pounded in one end.  The head of the nail had been sharpened. This spike made fast travel under these special conditions.  

This idyllic childhood continued until I was about 13 when Father died, leaving a family in an expensive setup and no money to pay the bills.  But that comes later."



 

Retirement Life in Florida Not Always Serene - 1973

The picture shows Ruth Kellogg (72) and her mother, Lottie Meredith (91), in Clearwater FL in 1978.

Ruth and John had just returned from a "rugged" 6-day trip to the Yucatan in Mexico.  Ruth was usually calm, didn't seem to let much bother her, except for my father. So imagine my surprise when I read this diary...

Friday, March 1, 1973   -   "Glad to be home and not anxious to leave soon again but that will come all too soon in late May -- to Diane's.  My mother gives me a hard time - trying to make me feel guilty and pliable to her needs.  If I were a stronger personality, it might have helped but now?  Between the various family members and my own desires & pleasures there are so many conflicts.  Now Ken & Nellie and boys seem well-adjusted and not dependent on me.  But how to work out Mom's needs without conflict here is tough!"

Lottie and her son, Jimmie, had moved from Chicago to Mt. Prospect after Ruth & John moved to Florida. They were a mile from me and baby Cindy, toddler Lynn. (Kate was born in 1970.)  I kept an eye on them, taking them on errands, visiting their small apartment. I thought it odd that my parents had left Lottie & Jimmie behind, as though they were forgotten luggage. Jimmie was schizophrenic, having had his first public episode at church in high school, followed by time at Elgin (mental hospital) and treatment off and on from then on.

I knew that Lottie was demanding of my mother, but didn't realize how much Ruth wanted to escape that responsibility. She had helped guide Lottie and Jimmie since my grandfather died of heart problems in May, 1944 at 63.  In either 1969 or 1970, Lottie and Jimmie moved to Largo, Florida, a short car ride from Ruth and John's apartment.  Dan and I helped get them packed up.  

In March, 1973 Lynn was 6, Cindy 5 and Kate 2, so visiting me in 1973 would be much more physical for 66-year-old Ruth.  She had babysat with Ken's boys when they were younger, but by 1973 were 12 and 9 with Mario (Nellie's son) slightly older.  There was a lot of drama when Ken's first wife was in the picture, so Ruth was happy to see life settle down once Nellie and Ken were married in 1972.

Hazy Daisy of Skylark

That was our dog's official name - Hazy Daisy of Skylark - though of course she was Daisy to us. In the picture, we're laughing because Daisy (age 9) walked into the living room and plopped down among us when we were taking a picture for the 1990 Christmas card.  Circling from the left:  Cindy (23), Kate (20), Dan, Diane, Lynn (24).  Her birthday is coming up on Jan. 29.

You're probably wondering when we got her - and where.  We have to go back to 1981 to find out....I didn't write in my diary regularly then. Sometimes there were gaps of months.

August 24, 1981 - Monday    "Monday has always been one of my best days for getting things done.  Here I am at 7 AM doing this instead. Must have been something to do with Daisy's being downstairs.  She's our 7-month-old ( Jan. 29) yellow Labrador retriever puppy, already about 60 lbs. & still growing.  She certainly has changed all of our lives.  

I drove up to Wisconsin (near Waukesha) to buy Daisy from Phyllis Putney in April during spring vacation, having called around the area & finding no puppy for sale closer.  I was very surprised at the size of Daisy even then.  The breeder told us she was 9 weeks old - didn't realize that she had her dates wrong.  Daisy was then 11 weeks."  Kate and Cindy, both on spring break, were with me on the drive to pick Daisy up.   Lynn was in high school at Fremd, which had a different vacation schedule back then.

"I think the first month would have been easier if we had had her at 7 or 8 weeks old.  We had some difficulty house-breaking her - and especially at night.  She pooped in her cage - in great volume - every night.

Daisy is a beautiful animal - white with a little tawny golden hair on her back and some tan on her ears.  However, she's hard to handle because of her size and is not all that absorbed with trying to please the humans around her.  She has improved greatly, but is still more work than I'd bargained for.

I hear her rattling her cage even as I write this.  Yesterday our family project was to work on Daisy's doghouse & run.  We built a doghouse, which stands 4 ft. high, and also tried to level the run, which we had built last spring & filled with cement blocks for flooring."

I went on to say that the adjustment to having Daisy was more of a strain than I had thought it would be. The 3 girls were about to go back to school, so I would be the main caretaker again.  Eventually Daisy became so much a part of the family that it was hard to imagine us without her.

I'd had a torn ligament in my knee from a McDonald's golf/tennis outing in July.  While we were warming up, my opponent hit a ball way to the back of my court.  I didn't realize I was backing up into a puddle of water! Had missed 3 weeks of golf and tennis because of the injury & was wearing a brace temporarily.

, Diane's Surgery in New York City, 1965

Diane's picture was taken in our apartment on Kappock St. in Riverdale, just north of the confluence of the Hudson and Harlem Rivers.  Yes, my hair was long, but done up in a stylish hairdo on top of the head.  

My mother's 1965 diary mentions that I had surgery on July 14 to remove "2 pieces of pencil-like scar tissue and a cyst off of an ovary".  She mentions 10 days later that "Diane phoned during the evening & we all got a word into her - but mostly listened to her - with Ken carrying load of conversation on this end.   She had gone home Thurs. from the hospital."

 I went to Beth Israel Hospital in NYC for an exploratory surgery.  I remember the surgeon later saying he had taken a tiny piece out of the ovary because that would encourage fertility if I should want to
get pregnant.  About 10 months after the operation, Lynn Meredith was born at that same hospital just 5 days before my 30th birthday.

At that point, my parents, Ruth and John Kellogg, were selling the house in Oak Park and about to live in an apartment temporarily.  They were going to have a new place in Clearwater FL re-done, adding a 3rd bedroom and extra bath, taken from the unit next door to them.  The other one became a one-bedroom, one-bath condo.

Christmas, 1992

The 1992 picture was taken in our living room with the tree as a backdrop.  Dan and Diane were 56 with Cindy (25), Lynn (26) and Kate (22).  Diane's diary follows. Neither the picture nor the words are in my book,  Pieces of a Life.

Dec. 26, 1992 - Saturday   "Yesterday was Christmas.  It went well after a tiring Christmas Eve  - ended up cooking til 11:30 PM - had a mishap with the salmon ball that caused a flare-up beween Dan and myself.  

Had the 3 boyfriends here - Tim, Jim and Bruce plus Vi.  Had an 18 lb. turkey and many dishes, mostly new ones.  

This was the first year that we broke our Christmas Eve ritual of putting out cookies & milk for Santa and coming in to see it all gone the next day (on film).  

Heather Reis and her boyfriend ,  Kip, dropped by.  Ended up talking health & vitamins to them because of an injury - twice - Kip had.  Snapped the Achilles' tendon.

Lynn & Jim left right after dinner to go to northern Wisconsin to use their new snowmobiles.  The other 4 were here all afternoon.  We drove Vi to Riccio's at 5:30.  Cindy & Tim stuck around til about 7 or 7:30 - then went to T-Ann's.    

Today Dan and I both did some Christmas errands first thing. Got bogged down in a long Ken phone call about Mom, $$, etc.  They only go well if one agrees with him, no matter how taxing it is to do that.

I think about Mom all the time.  She could live many years.  How sad that she doesn't know she has grandchildren or to be able to picture her own life other than from moment to moment...It's ironic.  She was so careful to diary her life, to keep everything in order."

At this point my mother, Ruth Meredith Kellogg (86), was in an Alzheimer's facility in FL. Her husband, John, had died in 1987 at age 87.  Brother Ken and his wife, Nellie, lived close by her in FL.

Heather Reis was a good friend of Lynn's.  The 3 boyfriends sorted out this way: Tim and Cindy, who dated several years and were living in Seattle,  Kate and Bruce, who dated a shorter time and Lynn and Jim Waldman, who dated 10 1/2 years and were married in 1995.  

Dan's sister, Vi, was 72.  Her husband, Chuck Saletta, who was 10 years older, had passed on.  She was in good health at this point, but that picture would darken later in her 70's.

Another important character in this story is Daisy, our yellow Labrador Retriever.  She had died on Aug. 22, 1992, just a few months before I wrote this page in my diary.  There are many mentions of her and how much I missed her, as did Dan and the girls.